The Difference Between a Good and Bad Client

The difference between a good and a bad client is often overlooked, but it's a question that should be asked more often. A good client in my industry is respectful, treating me as a human being rather than an object. They show respect in their manner and interactions, just as they would with anyone in their life, be it a sister, cousin, or friend. They are genuinely interested in getting to know me and don't treat me as a commodity they can simply use. On the other hand, a bad client is demanding, expecting me to be at their beck and call without any consideration for my boundaries or needs. As a bottom in this field, I often feel like an object that is simply there to be used, and I don't always enjoy it. It's important for clients to understand that I am still a human being who deserves respect.

Paying for My Time

One major aspect of respect is paying for my time. Many people seem to believe that they are entitled to free advice or my time simply because they find my line of work interesting. However, this is a misconception. We work in an industry that generates a lot of interest, but that doesn't mean we should give away our time for free. We face stigma, judgment, and criticism, and often lack support from our families and governments. So, if you believe that we owe you anything, you're mistaken.

A bad client is someone who doesn't respect the value of our time and tries to negotiate or haggle over our fees. They may also refuse to pay for any overtime they may have caused, showing a lack of consideration and disrespect. It's important to understand that if you go over the agreed-upon time, you should be willing to pay accordingly. You hire you? That's a red flag right away. A good client would respect your boundaries and not push you to provide services outside of your professional capacity. They would understand and appreciate the transactional nature of your interaction and not try to exploit or take advantage of you. A good client would be respectful, both in terms of your personal boundaries and the rules set by the club or establishment you work in. They would willingly spend money without needing to be asked and understand that your time and services come at a cost.

Respecting Boundaries

On the other hand, a bad client would disregard your boundaries and the rules of the club. They may try to negotiate prices or disregard the club's regulations, making you feel uncomfortable and disrespected. They may also try to monopolize your time without paying or seek ways to exploit you without fulfilling their end of the transaction.

Ultimately, the difference between a good and bad client lies in how they approach you and respect your boundaries, both personally and professionally. A good client understands the nature of your work, treats you with respect, and appreciates the value you provide. A bad client disregards boundaries, tries to negotiate or exploit, and makes you feel unsafe or disrespected.

Good Clients vs Bad Clients

A good client is someone who respects your time and values your worth. They initiate contact in a respectful manner and follow the booking process without argument. They understand and abide by your boundaries, whether it's regarding personal information or the services you provide. A good client prioritizes clear and effective communication, which is crucial in any relationship.

On the other hand, bad clients are those who disregard your worth and boundaries. They may send disrespectful messages or ignore important information about rates and preferred contact methods. They may also show a lack of understanding regarding your personal life and fail to respect your availability for phone calls. Bad clients may try to establish an inappropriate personal connection without fulfilling their financial obligations or attempt to mislead you about the nature of the booking.

"It's important to differentiate between clients who genuinely respect your boundaries and those who fail to do so. Good clients are focused on the professional aspect of the interaction and appreciate you for who you are within the scope of your work. They understand and respect your boundaries, while bad clients blur the line between professional and personal relationships and fail to communicate effectively."